You are looking at an attractive lady right across the bar. You are yet to determine how best to approach her. The truth is that you are totally confused – quite unsure of whether to appreciate the legs in her dress or her boobs first. Pause for a minute and think about the whole situation!
While you might get groin twitch after seeing her thigh curves, that is your biggest problem. The problem is yours and not hers.
Although she might have put on a sexy dress, it does not mean that you can proceed and reduce her to a piece of meat.
While most if not all ladies appreciate compliments, going through the details is a major put off. Doing so is downright creepy.
There’s a significant difference between these two statements, ‘That dress looks great on you’ and ‘I bet your dress would look more stunning crumpled up on my apartment floor in the morning.’
What’s The Prudent Thing To Do?
Are you in doubt? If yes, then always leave the appearance thing. The last thing any woman wants is to step into a bar feeling sexy and proceeding home feeling trampy just for nothing. She does not expect lame comments from men that assume nymphomaniac and sexy girl are similar words.
Unfortunately, most guys say things, which are equivalent to verbal rape. Never do it! Of course, women do not have a problem with the cheese ball, sexy lines when in the bedroom once they have agreed to go with you.
Honestly, sometimes they like such lines. They understand that they are there to have sex, DUH! However, the assumption that they are looking forward to getting horizontal since they are in the bar is demeaning, stupid, and asinine.
Sadly, in the dating world, some girls allow themselves to be harassed by men sexually. Fortunately, most women know their real value. They have secret things, which they are proud of, and an array of stuff they’re interested in.
Women have brains, insecurities, turn offs, turn ons etc. There isn’t any magic lock on their beautiful legs that you can jimmy with the correct phrase. ‘Open Sesame’ will never happen.
Such a line is entirely fine, ‘Can I buy you a drink?’ Additionally, never assume that by purchasing a girl a drink you are guaranteed of sex. It is a sentiment that they might or might not return. Men do not own women. They do not owe us anything other than a simple ‘thank you.’
Changing Times – You Better Move with The Tide
Fair enough, more men are learning that the only way to a woman is through her desires and not cheesy one-line greetings. Nevertheless, quite a number of men still opine that they’re like sleeping beauty, expecting our handsome prince to awaken, rescue, and kiss us in some form of passionate aliveness.
Some lines might be brave and cute, but they are nothing more of a false adoration of the 1950s. Today’s women do not want to be the ‘girl of your dreams, ’ and yet you have never conversed. Doing that is akin to reducing them to nothing but their appearance.
What’s The Key To a Woman’s Heart?
Knowing how to navigate dating relationships can be challenging. They not only know guys want sex but they also inherently know that some stack differences between genders exist. Honestly, they desire sex too. Nonetheless, the things that prompt them to want to have sex with you are entirely different from yours.
Just like you value understanding, women value it too. In fact, understanding is the gateway to a girl’s heart. It seems understanding is something both genders share in common spades.
Both men and women seek someone that ‘gets them.’ Both sexes want a person that values them unconditionally. We both need a partner that’s genuine, and real. Love is and will always be a two-way street. It is the base of mutual respect. Love can never matter without equal and mutual respect in a relationship.
Rather than going for a cheesy laugh line that might come off creepy, it is better to say something like, ‘Hi, I have been watching you across the bar, and the way you carry yourself tells me you are someone I would like to know. Can you allow me to buy you a drink?’
However, avoid saying it if you do not mean it. If you begin from the foundation of respect, from the point of view that both men and women exist for each other’s pleasure, then you are starting from a great place.
You must ask yourself before approaching any woman whether your first impression is from a foundation of understanding or not – that while you might find a woman sexy, ladies are also equal.
Males and females might be separate genders but aren’t different species. They are not the only gender that’s hot; they also find men sexy. Women just have their way of saying so.
Most Importantly …
Avoid stepping into the personal space of a lady without inquiring. The truth is that it is caveman-esque. Regardless of how loud the bar might be, it acts as a turnoff. Do you feel like you cannot speak from a distance? In such a situation, say, ‘’Hi, it is somewhat loud in here, is it possible we step outside to talk?’’
If you receive ‘no’ for an answer, don’t push it. If they suggest that you all step outside, it should not act as a sign that they want more than a conversation.
It is just an indication of saying they’re interested in talking to you. It should not be at the expense of allowing you into their personal space.
If they give you the go-ahead to move closer, be mindful of the position of the lady. Ensure that she has an exit. While the society might not scare you, it does scare them. When they cannot see an exit, there’s a tendency for them to get somewhat nervous.
As you grow in your dating world, may you discover ample ways of moving forward regarding showing women that while you find them sexy, they also think they are equal. By doing that, you will be able to not only meet but also keep the most gorgeous and exotic women in the world. That is because such kind of women appreciates someone who values, understands and respects them.
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