If you were to take a trip to the olden days, you would realize that back then people met their ideal partner through a friend, at a local restaurant or bar, or at a coffee shop as you ordered your coffee.
Nowadays, a lot more people tend to meet their spouse or lifelong partner without leaving the comfort of their home, at least initially.
Online dating is a more popular topic and accepted more and more every day within the last few years.
This does not always mean that everyone is doing it the right way.
Below are a few tips to help you better understand the concept of online dating whether you want to have a simple hook-up, find the one you will spend the rest of your life with or just spend time with someone that’s compatible with you.
1: Always be honest with yourself
When you decide you want to jump into the world of online dating make sure to sit down and think about what you want from the dating scene. Do you want an acquaintance or something more? Online dating sites are tools really, and they can, of course, be used differently.
Do you just want to hook up with someone you are extremely attracted to and not turned off by? Well, you are not alone, there is nothing wrong with wanting to do that or thinking that if you are very open about this with the partner at hand and yourself.
You may be someone that is more involved and in tune with casual dating, maybe like meeting your partner for a movie or a drink a few times a week and not feel pressured to move forward and talk about marriage.
Many people out in the world today are looking to find that person they can go out with and spend time with and not feel pressured into having to talk about marriage.
Alternatively, you may be searching for Mr. or Mrs. Right, and many people who participate in online dating can find this also. I know for a fact this can be done whether you meet them online or in person beforehand.
2: Make sure you choose the right dating site
If you are someone looking to find your soulmate you do not need to use the same website as someone who is just interested in a casual hookup.
There are so many different dating sites you can find now that you can choose from such a huge variety of sites and find one that fits your needs.
Below are just a few of the more popular sites:
Match.com is the perfect example of these websites. Most people that use Match are looking for a lifelong partner or significant relationships with meaning. It can be said that adults 30 and up usually use Match to find casual dating partners who are great.
eHarmony.com is similar to the Match.com interface and is really for people who are looking for a long term relationship versus a simple hookup. eHarmony has helped more couples meet and get married than any other dating site known in history, so this should tell you something about eHarmony and the average users that use the site.
JDate.com is a unique and different dating site that’s out there today. This website is set up for Jewish singles to meet up and of course, everyone is not devoted to their religion and super religious, but anyone can sign up regardless of if he or she are Jewish or just looking to find a partner that may be Jewish. Jdate is best when trying to find casual dates or a long lasting relationship.
Grindr.com is an application you can download and use on your mobile phone. Grindr is a site for mainly hooking up. Not long lasting relationships. Grindr is typically focused on the LGBT community so if you are looking for a man and you are a woman or vice-versa you probably will not have any luck with that at all through Grindr.
Tinder.com was released way before Grindr and is also one of the favorite, bigger sites out there that are usually for hooking up with someone. Many people have met and dated through Tinder, but the majority that has linked up have been casual and not long lasting relationships. Tinder is used mostly for opposite sex searching for each other but can also be used for same-sex relations as well.
OkCupid.com is more familiar with anyone under 40, and that is because it is a little more retro than other sites. People use this site for all different types and kinds of relationships also.
This dating site is an all purpose dating site and is AWESOME! There are a lot of different personality tests and questions that a lot of the people that use the site seem to think are intriguing and an excellent way to find someone that is the right fit for them.
3: Make sure you let your personality shine through!
Whenever you meet a person out in your everyday life in the real world, there is usually some connotations and context when you initially meet.
You may have locked eyes with each other when you both grabbed for the same puff pastry at the pastry shop in town or may have been looking at the same exact love seat in the furniture store you were looking in.
Whenever you are looking online, there isn’t that kind of context there except the fact that both of you are looking for a potential, and ideal partner. This is one of the reasons it is imperative for you to let your personality show through when you are seeking to meet someone.
You need to be yourself and let them know if you love spending your time gaming and watching television. Don’t lie and deceive people by telling them you love sitting around and reading Dostoevsky at night when you do not.
You need, to be honest with yourself and your partner you meet online about who you are and your personality. It will attract the right people for you that genuinely enjoy you and being around you. This applies to whether you just want a hookup or a lifelong commitment with someone.
4: Let your best side shine through
When you decide to date online the point of it all is to find someone you will thoroughly enjoy spending your time with and that you are very attracted to. If you are looking to find a partner for the long haul or just a partner for the night, you need always to be genuine no matter what the case may be.
Do not place old photographs of yourself up. Make sure you post a recent picture that you can fully tell is one hundred percent you. You need to make sure the pictures you choose for yourself are flattering to your eyes.
So, if you have a particular angle, you feel good at in a photo make sure you find one or take one with that perspective. If you are proud of your body in a bikini or your washboard abs, then go ahead and flaunt them.
If you have a friend that can help you by taking pictures of you that are flattering then go ahead and let them, there is no reason to feel ashamed of online dating or taking pictures for an online dating site.
Make sure that the friend you have to help you, you also help them in return if they are also single and up for the who online dating gig.
5: Make sure you always limit your exposure
You may be very tempted to upload those 50 selfies that look almost identical to your account and write your whole life story about who and what you are in life, but this is not advisable at all. You may think that this will attract a bunch of different potential guys/gals but, this will not!
In fact, this does not leave any mystery at all for the person to figure out about you, so limit how many pictures you decide to upload and how much you may say about yourself just post a few pictures with a couple of short sentences.
Short but to the point is always the best method, well not always but, in this scenario it is.
6: Do not bore your potential future dates
If you are interested in golfing, ancient Chinese literature, backgammon, or even sewing circles it is found to bring it up but to remain on the topic and draw it out repeating yourself over and over will bore your potential partner sometimes because even though you love playing golf, this does not mean they do.
If you make all of your hobbies the central part and center most of your profile, this may have potential dates steer clear from you and not speak to your or even stop talking to you altogether. No one wants their partner to talk about their hobbies 24 hours a day; it will be a bore after a while, and somewhat annoying.
7: Make sure you avoid negative Nancy and Ned
Many people think a listing of what they see as their flaws is a perfect idea; it is not! So instead of saying all this negative stuff about yourself, and being that Negative Ned or Nancy, don’t do that. Being honest is great but being the Ned or Nancy is not anything to brag about at all.
If you feel you need to let others know that you are unemployed, let them know you are looking into a new career path.
Even if you do not have a car let them know it is because you enjoy the scenery and sounds of the public transportation in your area and feeling the air hit your skin as you walk.
If you are always pointing out the negatives and your flaws no one will want to date you and your complaints all the time.
8: Remember people do lie
Even if you have been completely and one hundred percent yourself, honest, and genuine on your profile this does not mean the person you are about to message is being honest.
Instead of being 220 pounds as he claims he may be 260 pounds or that female you have been speaking to in your spare time she could be five-foot-two instead of five-foot-seven.
There isn’t a whole lot you can do or change about someone who is lying about their self online. You need to piece all the scenarios together when you decide to or before you decide to send them a message.
If someone says they are 44 but they look 22 they are probably lying to you, and this is someone you want to steer clear of. I mean if they lie about that what else could they possibly be lying about to you?
9: Move forward in your relationships
While dating online, it is easy to keep it going online for a little bit through email messages and sometimes this last for weeks at a time, but this is not the greatest way to hold or navigate through your relationship particularly in the beginning of it all.
Make sure instead you try to send a few emails back and forth but build it up slowly. If you genuinely like the person ask them when you guys can speak on the phone or if they would be up for talking on the phone.
When you hear someone’s voice, you can see how you two will interact together instead of hiding behind the screen of a computer so you can maybe see what chemistry there is between the both of you.
After you have spoken on the phone a few times, you may want to start thinking about meeting in person. If they seem to be hesitating a lot when you mention it, they may either be lying to you about something and are extremely nervous to have to fess up, or they may not be sure if they are one hundred percent into you or attracted to you.
10: Always stay safe when online dating
A lot of the online dating articles you come across are telling women to be safe when they are searching for someone online, but this also is advice that men also need to keep in mind also.
Not all the crazy, psychotic people have the male chromosome in their body, so guys should also be aware too.
To keep yourself safe make sure you do not give your email out if you have your last name on your email information, or your telephone number, work phone number, or home address. Make sure when meeting for the first time you meet somewhere that is very popular and where many people will be present.
You never know if the person behind that profile picture is who you have been talking to so always be safe and take safety precautions.
Are you ready to go and get this started?
It may seem scary and weird to start online dating if you have not tried it before but to be able to meet new individuals within your computer screen on a website is exhilarating.
There is nothing at all like meeting a person in the real world either and sometimes, most of the time the best relationships come from that, but this does not mean that it cannot happen when you start trying to date online also.
You can find your perfect match online too so don’t let anyone make you change your mind. These ten steps will place you where you need to be and push you in the direction of becoming an online dating pro in no time at all!
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